Long distance relationships are known to be difficult. Not having that physical intimacy at hand like couples who live together can put a real strain on things. That’s not to say the relationship itself isn’t rewarding, it just means you sometimes have to get creative.
Spending time apart can definitely make the heart grow fonder and ramp up the romance when you finally get to see one another. But those long stretches when you’re away from each other can feel like a struggle. The romance might suffer as a result, meaning you have to think of new ways to keep the romance alive.
Keeping the Romance Alive for Long Distance Couples
In most cases, the distance won’t be for long. Common reasons for entering into a long distance relationship are work or study. Usually one partner will need to be somewhere for a certain reason, and the other person will follow eventually. In order to last the distance, try some of the tips suggested below.
Put and end date on the distance
Indefinitely working on long distance togetherness can feel like a drain. When there’s no end in sight, there’s no bigger goal to look forward to. Sit down together and work out a plan that ends in the two of you being able to live together eventually. That end date (even if it changes) will alter your mindset and give you something to look forward to on your darker days.
Add a little spice
The physical side of your relationship doesn’t have to suffer when you’re apart – as long as you’re willing to get creative. If you’re feeling confident, a sexy video chat might help spice things up. Don’t be afraid to experiment with toys too. While vibrators have become pretty mainstream, male masturbators are often forgotten. Surprise your partner with a toy in the post to let them know you’re thinking of them (and what your intentions are when you see them next!)
Take trips together
Rather than just taking it in turns to visit each other’s place, remember to factor in a getaway or two. Going to each other’s houses can feel pretty routine. Understandably, you’re probably saving your money so you can afford to visit each other in the first place, but trips are an important couples activity too. Even if you book a minibreak in the next town over, it’ll take you out of the mundane routine of doing the dishes and deciding what to cook. When time together is limited, why waste it on the boring stuff?
Don’t let it consume you
It’s true that people stay in more once they’re part of a couple, but if you’re other half is miles away, then don’t let that keep you indoors! You’re a person in your own right, and being in a couple is only part of you identity. Make sure you’re doing things just for you.
Go out for dinner with colleagues, join a yoga class with your mum. Do whatever it takes to keep you busy and make your life feel fulfilled while your partner is away. It’ll do no end of good for your general wellbeing and won’t mean all your happiness is pinned on seeing your partner.