You’ve probably seen the huge body positivity movement that’s spreading online. It promotes the idea of going easy on yourself and having a more positive attitude towards your body.
The general message involves telling you to change your outlook and take care of yourself, but that can be easier said than done. Just because someone has told you to be kinder to yourself, it doesn’t necessarily mean the way you think about things will improve overnight.
I keep seeing loads of lovely messages about how there’s ‘no wrong way to have a body’, which is a nice reminder.
Picking clothes for a body you want to change can be a minefield too, it’s easy to feel like nothing looks good when you’re not happy with yourself. It’s easy to fall out with fashion.
You might remember me saying I have a ‘fat girl uniform‘, which is just a black vest and leggings from Primark, costing under £8 in total. Is is comfy? Yes. Does it look good? Certainly not. But that’s not really me taking good care of myself. That’s me ignoring all of fashion’s phone calls and pretending I’m not in.
I’ve started thinking a bit more about my clothes again, there’s no real reason I can’t love what I wear. Who knows, I might start to love what it’s covering along the way.
Deciding to change my attitude to what I wear has made me feel a lot better too. I feel a lot happier in clothes I actually like than in the cheap stretchy black stuff I was hiding in before.
So let me share my new fashion rules:
If you love it, buy it.
When you see something you have to have, don’t let anything put you off buying it, unless it’s uncomfortable to wear. Don’t worry about what anyone will think, if it’s amazing and a comfortable fit then you’ll look fantastic. Your confidence will make anything sparkle. Stop hiding.
I recently found this dress on Amazon (I know?!) that I loved but it showed the tops of my arms. I hate the tops of my arms because they feel big and gross, but the dress was really cute and I had somewhere to go so I bought it.
As it turned out, it was fabulous and I forgot about my exposed arms because the dress itself made me feel so good.
The moral: try something you wouldn’t normally wear. A change in your style can be a real confidence boost.
Don’t be afraid of standing out with bright prints
If you’re unhappy with how you look (and this isn’t just a people-who-want-to-lose-weight thing, this is an everybody thing) it’s really easy to adopt a ‘hiding in plain sight’ sort of style in order to remain unnoticed.
Light colours and bright prints can bring attention your way, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, even if you’re normally a wallflower. These types of clothes can also be a breath of fresh air and if you’ve made a noticeable change to your style, compliments will start rolling in.
When you stop hiding in plain sight people will see your true beauty, no matter what you wear. So be brave and buy something you normally wouldn’t.
Blending in will do nothing for your self esteem!
It doesn’t matter if you cover parts of your body you don’t like, you can still be ‘body-positive’
As I mentioned, I hate my upper arms. I recently bought a lovely dress that concealed them. It was a ‘safe’ dress. It was black, it hid parts of my body I wanted to hide and because of this, I felt great! The website won’t let me save a picture so you’ll have to make to with my poor shots (sorry they’re not better, I didn’t think I’d have to use my own, I’ll try and update them in a couple of days). Or you can just see the dress here.
The point is, as long as your outlook is positive and your view of yourself is good, then you’re already practicing body positivity.
So if you can’t change your attitude overnight, you can change your wardrobe. Just because you don’t love your body doesn’t mean you can’t love your clothes. Start being proud of what you wear, you’ll soon forget where your clothes end and you begin.
Besides, you’re already beautiful, you just need to realise it.