Beauty, Fashion

How to Dress a Body You’re Not in Love With

You’ve probably seen the huge body positivity movement that’s spreading online. It promotes the idea of going easy on yourself and having a more positive attitude towards your body.

The general message involves telling you to change your outlook and take care of yourself, but that can be easier said than done. Just because someone has told you to be kinder to yourself, it doesn’t necessarily mean the way you think about things will improve overnight.

I keep seeing loads of lovely messages about how there’s ‘no wrong way to have a body’, which is a nice reminder.

No wrong way to have a body
I saw this on Tumblr, I can’t find the artist to credit them but I love it. (If you’re the artist please get in touch.)

 

Picking clothes for a body you want to change can be a minefield too, it’s easy to feel like nothing looks good when you’re not happy with yourself. It’s easy to fall out with fashion.

You might remember me saying  I have a ‘fat girl uniform‘, which is just a black vest and leggings from Primark, costing under £8 in total. Is is comfy? Yes. Does it look good? Certainly not. But that’s not really me taking good care of myself. That’s me ignoring all of fashion’s phone calls and pretending I’m not in.

I’ve started thinking a bit more about my clothes again, there’s no real reason I can’t love what I wear. Who knows, I might start to love what it’s covering along the way.

Deciding to change my attitude to what I wear has made me feel a lot better too. I feel a lot happier in clothes I actually like than in the cheap stretchy black stuff I was hiding in before.

So let me share my new fashion rules:

 

Available here
Available here

If you love it, buy it.

When you see something you have to have, don’t let anything put you off buying it, unless it’s uncomfortable to wear. Don’t worry about what anyone will think, if it’s amazing and a comfortable fit then you’ll look fantastic. Your confidence will make anything sparkle. Stop hiding.

I recently found this dress on Amazon (I know?!) that I loved but it showed the tops of my arms. I hate the tops of my arms because they feel big and gross, but the dress was really cute and I had somewhere to go so I bought it.

As it turned out, it was fabulous and I forgot about my exposed arms because the dress itself made me feel so good.

The moral: try something you wouldn’t normally wear. A change in your style can be a real confidence boost.

 

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Available here.

 

Don’t be afraid of standing out with bright prints

If you’re unhappy with how you look (and this isn’t just a people-who-want-to-lose-weight thing, this is an everybody thing) it’s really easy to adopt a ‘hiding in plain sight’ sort of style in order to remain unnoticed.

Light colours and bright prints can bring attention your way, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing, even if you’re normally a wallflower. These types of clothes can also be a breath of fresh air and if you’ve made a noticeable change to your style, compliments will start rolling in.

When you stop hiding in plain sight people will see your true beauty, no matter what you wear. So be brave and buy something you normally wouldn’t.

Blending in will do nothing for your self esteem!

 

 

 

It doesn’t matter if you cover parts of your body you don’t like, you can still be ‘body-positive’

As I mentioned, I hate my upper arms. I recently bought a lovely dress that concealed them. It was a ‘safe’ dress. It was black, it hid parts of my body I wanted to hide and because of this, I felt great! The website won’t let me save a picture so you’ll have to make to with my  poor shots (sorry they’re not better, I didn’t think I’d have to use my own, I’ll try and update them in a couple of days). Or you can just see the dress here.

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The point is, as long as your outlook is positive and your view of yourself is good, then you’re already practicing body positivity.

So if you can’t change your attitude overnight, you can change your wardrobe. Just because you don’t love your body doesn’t mean you can’t love your clothes. Start being proud of what you wear, you’ll soon forget where your clothes end and you begin.

Besides, you’re already beautiful, you just need to realise it.

9 thoughts on “How to Dress a Body You’re Not in Love With

  1. RIght! I have a month before going to a family wedding. I think I can change my attitude and buy me a fabulous dress and feel fabulous. I have some dresses I really love in the cupboard but they are more winter dresses to go with leggings. August weather means something a little cooler… Thanks for the great tips, mindset is going to change! Thanks for linking up to #Abrandnewday

  2. This post was so motivational! I absolutely have those days where I feel ‘ugly’ and nothing fits right and I wish that I had someone else’ body but this was the card I was dealt…so I better just ‘werk’ it! You have lovely legs, show them off! X
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  3. It’s great that you’re getting body image talk out there into the wider world. I’m a teacher in a high school and it is one of the biggest pastoral issues we face on a day-to-day basis. Some great advice here.
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  4. Whit woo! I think you look blimming lovely in that dress! I have come to the realisation that I’ll never be entirely happy with my body but that’s ok because it is amazing and gave me babies. I even have a post sat in drafts about it. 🙂 Thanks for joining us at the #bigpinklink

  5. […] I’ve written about this a few times, but if you feel great in a particular outfit – buy it! Clothes shape how we feel about ourselves so much, and if those killer heels, or that slightly-too-expensive dress give you the confidence to enjoy your body, then don’t hesitate to buy similar. From safe outfits, to stand-out prints, I explore them all here. […]

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