Everyone’s a blogger these days, or so it seems anyway (perhaps it seems that way to me because I read a lot of blogs). It’s a perfectly acceptable hobby, but there’s still a part of me that feels massively embarrassed when someone I know discovers my blog.
These days I just style it out if my cover is blown. I’ve been doing it about 8 or 9 months and as I gain momentum, a few more people here and there spot that it’s me and get in touch.
I still feel a bit embarrassed, though. It’s easy to make mistakes when you’re in a rush or simply on a rant about something (on a side note, never blog whilst angry). I couldn’t bear the thought of someone I see on a semi-regular basis thinking I don’t know how to use a possessive apostrophe, when in reality it’s only a mere typo.
Imagine the gossip!
(Obviously there would be no gossip. It’s more likely that no one would notice or care, but this is the fear talking.)
It’s a really weird phenomenon in the blogging world, a real 50/50 thing. You see, there’s two types of bloggers out there, the ones that tell their friends and loved ones from the offset and gain support right from the start.
Then there’s the ones like me, who put off having a Facebook page for the blog until the absolute latest they can manage. (I still don’t have a picture of my face on the page.)
There’s nothing wrong with ‘coming out’ in the beginning, in fact, it’s probably the best approach. It’s incredibly difficult to get traffic in those early days, especially if no one knows that you’re writing anything. It makes sense to get those who love you to check out your work and let you know what they think.
Truthfully, my early days were terrible. A real snoozefest.
Then, all of a sudden, I was discovered by people I knew.
Facebook was my first problem, I linked a couple of apps to my normal Facebook account (like Pinterest and Bloglovin’) which led a few people to the blog. Then I shared some recipe posts in Weight Watchers related Facebook group and being a woman of nearly 30, a large portion of people who I went to school with have had children,and since loads of people join Weight Watchers post pregnancy, a few more found me.
The next level of exposure was when one of my posts made it to the front page of Mumsnet Bloggers Network’s (very kindly driving lots of traffic) which they shared on their Facebook and Twitter accounts. This time I was not only worried about what people would think of my writing, but also the subject matter. The post that attracted all the attention was about the time I couldn’t wee when I was pregnant. I can laugh about it now though, hahaha, see.
Finally, the last mistake was Facebook again. I tried to import a photo from Facebook to Instagram but ended up linking my account which meant everyone on my friends list got a notification to say I had Instagram. I immediately un-linked the two, but the damage had already been done.
As an after effect of this brief marriage of accounts, I now get loads of local people in my add suggestions. If I’m not paying attention when I go on an adding spree I’ll discover several days after the fact that I’ve added some girl I barely knew from school (and maybe forgot to accept their Facebook friend request – oops) or someone I regularly sold glasses to about 5 years ago when they were a kid, but now they do great make up and I pray they don’t remember me and think I’m a stalker.
All of these events lead us to present day, where I’m mostly ‘out’. I’m not forthcoming with the fact that I have this blog, but I don’t go out of my way to hide it either. I’ve made peace with the idea that if I want people to read what I write, then I have to accept people who know me personally might read it too.
I’m not ashamed of this site, I’ve put a lot of work into making it mildly entertaining and figuring out how to make it look even vaguely snazzy. It’s taken me three quarters of a year, but I’m finally embracing my blogger status.
The next step is business cards and blogging conferences, like the other, proper bloggers out there. I’m looking forward to the future!
Are you ‘out’ as a blogger? When did you decide it was the right time? Tell me in the comments section!