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‘Coming Out’ as a Blogger

Everyone’s a blogger these days, or so it seems anyway (perhaps it seems that way to me because I read a lot of blogs). It’s a perfectly acceptable hobby, but there’s still a part of me that feels massively embarrassed when someone I know discovers my blog.

These days I just style it out if my cover is blown. I’ve been doing it about 8 or 9 months and as I gain momentum, a few more people here and there spot that it’s me and get in touch.

I still feel a bit embarrassed, though. It’s easy to make mistakes when you’re in a rush or simply on a rant about something (on a side note, never blog whilst angry). I couldn’t bear the thought of someone I see on a semi-regular basis thinking I don’t know how to use a possessive apostrophe, when in reality it’s only a mere typo.

Imagine the gossip!

(Obviously there would be no gossip. It’s more likely that no one would notice or care, but this is the fear talking.)

It’s a really weird phenomenon in the blogging world, a real 50/50 thing. You see, there’s two types of bloggers out there, the ones that tell their friends and loved ones from the offset and gain support right from the start.

Then there’s the ones like me, who put off having a Facebook page for the blog until the absolute latest they can manage. (I still don’t have a picture of my face on the page.)

There’s nothing wrong with ‘coming out’ in the beginning, in fact, it’s probably the best approach. It’s incredibly difficult to get traffic in those early days, especially if no one knows that you’re writing anything. It makes sense to get those who love you to check out your work and let you know what they think.

Truthfully, my early days were terrible. A real snoozefest.

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I love a really well conveyed stock image. Hopefully this depicts someone being terribly bored by my blog

Then, all of a sudden, I was discovered by people I knew.

Facebook was my first problem, I linked a couple of apps to my normal Facebook account (like Pinterest and Bloglovin’) which led a few people to the blog. Then I shared some recipe posts in Weight Watchers related Facebook group and being a woman of nearly 30, a large portion of people who I went to school with have had children,and since loads of people join Weight Watchers post pregnancy, a few more found me.

The next level of exposure was when one of my posts made it toΒ the front page of Mumsnet Bloggers Network’s (very kindly driving lots of traffic) which they shared on their Facebook and Twitter accounts. This time I was not only worried about what people would think of my writing, but also the subject matter. The post that attracted all the attention was about the time I couldn’t wee when I was pregnant. I can laugh about it now though, hahaha, see.

Finally, the last mistake was Facebook again. I tried to import a photo from Facebook to Instagram but ended up linking my account which meant everyone on my friends list got a notification to say I had Instagram. I immediately un-linked the two, but the damage had already been done.

As an after effect of this brief marriage of accounts, I now get loads of local people in my add suggestions. If I’m not paying attention when I go on an adding spree I’ll discover several days after the fact that I’ve added some girl I barely knew from school (and maybe forgot to accept their Facebook friend request – oops) or someone I regularly sold glasses to about 5 years ago when they were a kid, but now they do great make up and I pray they don’t remember me and think I’m a stalker.

All of these events lead us to present day, where I’m mostly ‘out’. I’m not forthcoming with the fact that I have this blog, but I don’t go out of my way to hide it either. I’ve made peace with the idea that if I want people to read what I write, then I have to accept people who know me personally might read it too.

I’m not ashamed of this site, I’ve put a lot of work into making it mildly entertaining and figuring out how to make it look even vaguely snazzy. It’s taken me three quarters of a year, but I’m finally embracing my blogger status.

The next step is business cards and blogging conferences, like the other, proper bloggers out there. I’m looking forward to the future!

 

Are you ‘out’ as a blogger? When did you decide it was the right time? Tell me in the comments section!

 

36 thoughts on “‘Coming Out’ as a Blogger

  1. I think this post is so relevant to me. I almost feel like I used to have two different sides, one online side and one for people who knew me personally. About a year ago, I made the brave decision to not care so much anymore and combine the two. Now I don’t worry if people know I have a blog. I don’t go round telling everyone about it but I’m also not ashamed and trying to hide it. Thank you for posting this πŸ™‚

    1. It’s so hard to take the plunge and then when you have, it’s not even a problem any more. I do think it’s hard to muster up the courage though! x

    1. I still don’t share anything on my personal Facebook page! I think I need to brave it and do that so I can get a bit more traffic x

  2. Hi Jenny!
    Love this post.According to my knowladge 99% of the bloggers tell none of thier family or friends about thier blog at the begining because most of the times people don’t get what we do.

    I waited till I feel like I’m ready and confident enogh with my blogging skills to show my blog to the people I know.

    1. For ages it was just one friend, my fiance and my mum, but it got less of a big deal when I realised more people I knew were finding me. I still don’t post on my personal Facebook page though! x

  3. This is a great post πŸ™‚ I became a Blogger as it was a place to express my inner frustrations that were floating around in my head constantly. I wanted to share our journey and help spread awareness of Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD) after my 4 year old was diagnosed. I’ve spent so many years of my life bottling things up and being ashamed of myself, 5 months ago I thought “what have I got to lose?” Maybe a few ‘friends’ but I am so greatful to those that have complimented me and continue to be there for me and my children πŸ™‚ My mum said to me yesterday: “you post everything on Facebook” but then I showed her the post I’ve written on the ‘Mess Around’ session and she said “I can see why you do this.” πŸ’œ

    1. I think when you do share your thoughts and feelings and unload your worries you can feel a bit exposed. Now I know people I know sometimes have a read, I tend not to post anything too personal or too much about what I feel. I suppose I shouldn’t hold back but it’s hard when you’re self ware. It’s good that you’ve received a positive response and your blog is really good (and helpful for tips and raising awareness) my blog has a lot less to offer haha! x

  4. Oh I’m so glad I read this, I’m exactly the same! I’ve been running my current blog for 6 months but ran another blog for around a year before that – I told no-one about either blogs and just can’t bring myself to do it! My husband knows I’ve got one but I’ve never let him see it, and even my Mum has no idea I have one. Only a select three friends know about it because they’re all in similar situations to me and I thought they might enjoy it, otherwise it just feels too personal and I’d hate people I know to think I’m being all ‘look at me, ready about my life!’ So I’m still doing it the hard way and painstakingly trying to build up followers from scratch! Facebook is definitely the one to watch you’re right, it’s a nightmare and you link things up without even realising it! #FartGlitter

    1. That’s how I felt (and still feel a bit)! It’s weird because from my side I was really stressed about people knowing I write a blog, but the people who know don’t actually care! x

  5. Aaaaw I loved this. I’d set up an FB page months before I dare transfer any posts that someone I may actually know in REAL LIFE might read!! #chucklemums

  6. I’m out but also in and then out again! I know that people know but I don’t really talk about it. I hate thinking that people I know will read it, especially when I am writing posts about Orlando’s penis. The shame. #ChuckleMums

  7. Lol.. Very nice post. I completely understand the feeling. I started blogging in February this year and So many times I am usually afraid to share my posts with people who might know me, the thought of them judging my opinions and write up makes me blush. I am however becoming a lot more comfortable as a blogger.

  8. It was so me when I started reading this! At first I told my best friends and my family and that was it. I wanted to grow my page so eventually I strted sending invitations to like my page to people who I was not much in contact with. Days and months passed and now I am completely out of the fear phase because I have recieved quiet a lot of assurance about my work! I haven’t printed the business cards yet but I am doing it soon!
    Hope we grow and tru not to think about the people! It is our wish to write and the best thing about blogging is you are your own boss and nobody is going to correct you. Why fear!!

    1. I think I might just bite the bullet and invite everyone I know. I’ll maybe wait until I have a few more likes so that I look really popular! x

  9. I blogged to myself for a few weeks, then realised that was probably an unproductive way to spend my time, so did a bit on Twitter. Took a while for Facebook though but feedback was pretty good so it’s been fine since then! Still feels odd when people at work ask me about my blog though!! #chucklemums

  10. I didn’t say anything to my family. Like you, Facebook did the job quite nicely without me realizing it! My fiance’ on the other hand told everyone about it.

  11. Some of the school Mum’s friend requested me and I forgot and shared a few bits. I was only brave enough to out myself when I got on Huff Post, felt like that meant I didn’t have to be embarrassed! #chucklemums

  12. I blogged for a few months before telling anyone I knew but now I don’t care and I unashamedly push myself when and wherever I can. It’s quite uncharacteristic actually but hey. You should be proud of what you do otherwise you shouldn’t do it, eh?? #chucklemums

  13. With family I was honest from the word go because it was something fun and just blogged about days out. Family now dip in and out and I’ve been more open with my mental health which makes me more guarded. Some mums added me on FB and I didn’t even think about it when I shared my posts from my blog page so now they know about the blog, it kinda affects how much o write personally now incase I’m asked in person but mostly I’m ok with it open. πŸ™‚

  14. I can really understand where you’re coming from. I started out totally anonymous, and then shared a post through my Facebook page, then took it off, then put it back on, then took it off, then swore at myself. I do now have a couple of pics on the blog but generally side profiles with an infant shoved in front of me, and I only have tiny baby pics of my children on. I don’t hide it from friends and family, but I don’t broadcast it to them either as I worry that if too many of my “nearest and dearest” start to read it might change the way that I write, and make it more about pleasing them or not wanting to offend my Mum in law with swear words etc. It’s a tricky one – and I haven’t hit the dizzying heights that you have on Mumsnet etc. Great post. Thank you for linking with #fartglitter x

    1. It’s so hard to not second guess yourself and just stay ‘out’. I’m already a little self conscious now I’m sort of out. The Mumsnet thing was only a one off. They only wanted me for my massive bladder anyway! x

  15. Ah see I’m quite confident BEHIND the laptop screen and will share my posts to my personal FB page and generally bash people I know into following me, but face to face? That’s an entirely different kettle of fish. I get a bit embarrassed and apologetic and caveat everything I say with “it’s not the best blog in the world but…”. I think it’s best to just be upfront and feign pride, unless you’re written about something a bit dicey. Or sex. Thanks for linking with #Chucklemums, hope to see you next week πŸ™‚ xx

    1. I’m getting that way, I just need to meet a few bloggers in real life to boost me on a bit I think. Did I see you went to Britmums? I think other people’s confidence will rub off on me. I’m almst apologetic if I do talk about my blog in real life. Also I would never dare talk about sex, my mum reads this! x

  16. Good post! I’m one of those that dived in head first, my first post was written on an impulse and I posted the link to my Facebook page. I was in a bad place at the time and it was very personal so I really didn’t know what to expect but I got a lot of support and haven’t looked back. 8 months on and writing my blog is one of the best things I’ve ever done!

  17. Hee hee yep I’ve been there and came out in a post about 3 months in. Even now only a few friends really know and my parents or in-laws still don’t know. I have photos on my blog, twitter profile, instagram etc so if you saw the them it would be obvious it was me but I don’t shout about it ‘in real life’ πŸ™‚
    At first it made me slightly more aware of what I was writing but now I actually feel quite proud of myself for overcoming the fear of going public and still having the courage to write despite not having much confidence or any writing experience. Good for you, you have a great blog so you can be proud to show it off now! #fartglitter

  18. People who know me, know that I blog, including my colleagues, which can be a bit embarrassing when they read bits out loud in the office…! But because I keep my name and photo off the blog, I at least stay semi-anonymous!
    Thanks for joining #chucklemums

  19. It’s funny. When I started a blog I quickly made a facebook page and invited everybody to like my facebook page! I wanted to get as many people to like and follow me as I possibly could. Then I slowly realized how vulnerable I was. I was thinking that now every time that I post people are judging me! They might be looking at my projects to think, “wow that sucks!” or “oh my gosh that is so stupid!” I quickly found myself regretting asking anybody to like my page.
    Blogging is certainly a hard job and it forces me out of my comfort zone on a daily basis!

  20. Oh I can identify with all of this! I started my blog 8 or 9 months ago too, and have picked up 320 random followers. None of my family,,not even my husband, knows that I write a blog. At first, I used to put a link on my Facebook page to new blog posts I wrote, but stopped doing that as I think it just annoyed my Facebook friends who weren’t interested. So then I started a new Facebook page with links to my blog and didn’t tell people about it.
    Also, my blog isn’t exactly how I want it yet, there is no focus or clear topic, it’s just a collection of ramblings. I’m never going to get to be serious as a writer unless I do something about this!
    Good luck with your blog, keep up the good work!

    1. Thanks Georgie! I rarely post links on my personal Facebook page for that reason, I worry I’ll be bothering friends who don’t care! Your blog is good! What visions did you have for it? x

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